self-love

What you think matters!

There are two factors that make the work of Louise Hay very difficult for many addicts and alcoholics to commit to reading, studying and learning. The first has to do with the importance of thinking, of our thoughts and beliefs. Many addicts and alcoholics simply do not understand, and as a result quickly dismiss, any conversation about the importance, let alone power, of our thinking or thoughts patterns for directing our life. There tends to be no connection made by the addict or alcoholic between their inner world of thinking and their outer experiences, including their addiction.

The second factor has to do with their self-image and self-esteem. Many addicts and alcoholics do not believe that what they think about themselves matters or has anything to do with what they are experiencing in life, including and especially their addiction. The same individuals tend to discount any conversation about self-esteem, believing that it might be the effect of drug and alcohol use for some but is definitely not the cause of anyone’s addiction. As a result most simply deny that they have a self-esteem issue at all. There is no understanding that addiction is a reflection of an inner missing of self-love.

I believe that until the addict and alcoholic can understand the importance of their thinking and specifically their thought process about themselves, about their value and worth as a human being, about their poor self esteem and lack of self love, that they will continue to struggle, eventually relapse and recovery will remain something that will always elude them. After detox and the using of drugs and alcohol ceases the individual will feel better. Even though having a conversation at this time about self-image and self-esteem would be of benefit to the addict and alcoholic, it simply will not happen.

What does happen is the continuation of the utter denial of the importance and power of human consciousness. There will be little if any conversation or examination of the thoughts and beliefs that the addict or alcoholic has on a daily basis. There will be no conversation about our responsibility for his using, about his choosing of his addiction and about his power to end his addiction of drugs and alcohol forever. There will be the overt promoting of the idea that now that you feel better, you are better and with this delusion comes the implicit message that all you have to do is return to the external, outer world to continue living your life.

Dr. Harry Henshaw