drugs and alcohol

I am responsible for all of my experiences!

One of the most difficult ideas for addicts and alcoholics to understand, let alone fully accept, is that they are responsible for all of their experiences, responsible for everything that they think, say, feel and do in life. The tendency of an addict or alcoholic is to deny their responsibility for their life condition and to blame another person, place or thing for what they are experiencing. When I blame I have no power to change or transform my life.

To do recovery and to transform your life you have to assume complete responsibility for your life, total responsibility for all of your experiences. This especially includes your addiction to drugs and alcohol. You are completely responsible for creating your addiction to drugs and alcohol, for you starting to use and for you continuing to use. Most addicts and alcoholic refuse to accept their responsibility for their self destructive condition.

When I blame another person, place or thing I make up a story about me being a victim. I create that someone or some situation in life made me the way that I am today. I may look for sympathy in others and for others to even acknowledge that have been treated poorly or unfairly. I want others to tell me that I am a victim in life, that I am not responsible for what I am experiencing and that definitely there is someone or something to blame for what is happening to me.

However, when I blame and do not accept my responsibility for my life I stay stuck. I am unable to change or transform my life. I will not consider, let alone utilize, the power that I have inside me to alter the trajectory of my life. I will refuse to consider that not only are my actions and behaviors creating my life but more importantly so are my thoughts and the beliefs that I hold about life, others and especially about myself. My situation and condition is the result of my not knowing that I am a powerful being, that I do have the Power to transform.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Creating Positive Self-Esteem is the Missing Link in Recovery

The missing link in the recovery process is learning to accept, respect and love yourself. The way that a person comes to authentically love himself is by changing his thinking, by changing his thought process.

Most individuals are not aware of the importance and power of their thinking. What is important is for us to fully understand that our point of power for changing our life is always in the present moment, in the Now. What we think in the present is important, it does matter.

Every thought we think is creating our present reality and our future experiences. Most people suffer from self-hatred and guilt. The fundamental thought that affects if not determines all of our thoughts and thinking patterns is that "I am not good enough."

When we think that we are not good enough we source or attract negative experiences into our lives, including the use of drugs and alcohol. As we are always choosing our thoughts and are totally responsible for them, we can change what we think and as a result what we experience and the trajectory of our life.

This process is what our Intensive Outpatient Counseling Program is all about, that is, helping you to change your thinking so that you can end your addiction to drugs and alcohol forever and learn to authentically respect, accept and love yourself as you are in the present, in the Now.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

"Addictive behavior is another way of saying, "I'm not good enough."

"Addictive behavior is another way of saying, "I'm not good enough." When we are caught in this type of behavior, we are trying to run away from ourselves. We cannot be in touch with our feelings. Something that we are believing, saying, or doing is too painful for us to look at, so we overeat, drink, act out compulsive sexual behavior, take pills, spend money that we don't have, and create abusive love relationships."
(page 81, You Can Heal Your Life Workbook by Louise Hay)

A negative self image and the poor self-esteem that is caused by our perception of our value and worth as a human being is the primary cause of drug and alcohol addiction. The cause of addiction is not the drugs or alcohol.

When we decide to focus on helping addicts and alcoholics to transform their self image, then and only then will we start to find authentic solutions to the drug and alcohol problems that we are experiencing today.

Individuals who authentically learn how to love themselves will not use drugs and alcohol. The solution to drug and alcohol addiction is to help addicts and alcoholic learn to respect, accept and love themselves as they are now.

Drug and alcohol addiction is not a physical disorder so much as it is a thought disorder. Addiction is a way of thinking, a way of thinking that tells you that you are not good enough. The only true solution to drug and alcohol addiction is to be found in a transformation of thought.

Dr. Harry Henshaw