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Egomaniac with an inferiority complex!

"Egomaniac with an inferiority complex" is a phrase that tends to describe the psychological make up of many addicts and alcoholics, in active addiction and in recovery. It is a phrase that articulates both the cause of drug and alcohol addiction and the resistant and defiant element to recovery and transformation. It is a phrase that if unpacked can give us a clue to the real solution to drug and alcohol addiction, including and especially to the current drug epidemic.

The ego is that part of the addict and alcoholic that pretends, pretends that they know, pretends that they have it together, pretends that what matters is looking good, pretends that they do not have an self esteem issue, pretends that they have good self esteem, pretends that the problem is about the drugs and alcohol and not them. The ego usually comes back into control when the addict or alcohol starts to feel better physically, after detox or discharge from a residential treatment program.

The inferiority complex reveals to us the true cause of drug and alcohol addiction. The inferior complex is all about the existence of a negative self image and poor self esteem, the driving force behind and the fundamental cause of a person using drugs and alcohol. Created by Dr. Alfred Adler, a peer of Dr. Carl Jung, the inferiority complex tends to get suppressed or denied especially as the individual leaves detox and starts to feel better physically.

However, soon after the ego takes back control of the addict's or alcoholic's life, the thoughts and especially feelings from the inferiority complex start to drift back into the conscious life of the individual. Unable and ill equipped from their tour in a residential treatment program the addict and alcoholic starts to feel overwhelmed from the depressed and anxious feelings that are emerging and the cravings to use start back again. Ignorant to the process of how to heal oneself, the individual tends to use again, starting the cycle over once more.

It is only by exploring the suppressed, negative thoughts of their self image and the addict's and alcoholic's story that is generated from their inferiority complex, that the individual will have a chance of transforming his life and ending his addiction to drugs and alcohol. The ego is an unhealthy defense mechanism whose purpose is to reduce the anxiety and depression created by the individual's negative self image and poor self esteem. In the end, the ego attempts to cover up the true cause of addiction from the addict and alcoholic, again another pretending.

The only path that will bring true recovery and transformation is to talk about the anxiety and depression, to help the addict and alcoholic to become present their inferiority complex and help them to transform it. Repressing the inferiority complex more with the ego, pretending that it does not exist, will not make it go away. The inferiority complex will continue to push to be revealed in order to be healed. If the addict and alcoholic does not deal with the inferiority complex in a healthy manner, it will deal with the addict and alcoholic in a unhealthy and potentially deadly manner.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Our responsibility, choice and power!

As long as an addict or alcoholic continues to think certain thoughts and hold on to specific beliefs recovery will elude them and they will most assuredly and eventually relapse. As long as addicts and alcoholics continue to think and belief that they are not responsible for their addiction, that they did not choose their addiction to drugs and alcohol and that they are powerless with respect to their addiction they will not transform their life. They will remain a victim in and to life.

When we assume complete responsibility for our addiction to drugs and alcohol we learn how we actually created and even choose our self destructive way of being. When we assume full responsibility for our addiction to drugs and alcohol we also learn about our power and how we can change and transform our life and end our addiction forever. When we learn about who we really are, we learn about the divine tools that we possess that will transform our life, our responsibility, choice and power.

Some addicts and alcoholics will gain the knowledge and wisdom necessary to change and transform their life. They will learn the power and even magic of their thinking and beliefs and how they can use these powerful tools to alter the trajectory of their life and transform. Others will not learn and will continue to hold on thoughts and beliefs that devalue them, that will continue to support the belief that they are not good enough. Life for these individuals will continue to be the same, creating possibilities such as institutions, jail or death.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

What you think matters!

There are two factors that make the work of Louise Hay very difficult for many addicts and alcoholics to commit to reading, studying and learning. The first has to do with the importance of thinking, of our thoughts and beliefs. Many addicts and alcoholics simply do not understand, and as a result quickly dismiss, any conversation about the importance, let alone power, of our thinking or thoughts patterns for directing our life. There tends to be no connection made by the addict or alcoholic between their inner world of thinking and their outer experiences, including their addiction.

The second factor has to do with their self-image and self-esteem. Many addicts and alcoholics do not believe that what they think about themselves matters or has anything to do with what they are experiencing in life, including and especially their addiction. The same individuals tend to discount any conversation about self-esteem, believing that it might be the effect of drug and alcohol use for some but is definitely not the cause of anyone’s addiction. As a result most simply deny that they have a self-esteem issue at all. There is no understanding that addiction is a reflection of an inner missing of self-love.

I believe that until the addict and alcoholic can understand the importance of their thinking and specifically their thought process about themselves, about their value and worth as a human being, about their poor self esteem and lack of self love, that they will continue to struggle, eventually relapse and recovery will remain something that will always elude them. After detox and the using of drugs and alcohol ceases the individual will feel better. Even though having a conversation at this time about self-image and self-esteem would be of benefit to the addict and alcoholic, it simply will not happen.

What does happen is the continuation of the utter denial of the importance and power of human consciousness. There will be little if any conversation or examination of the thoughts and beliefs that the addict or alcoholic has on a daily basis. There will be no conversation about our responsibility for his using, about his choosing of his addiction and about his power to end his addiction of drugs and alcohol forever. There will be the overt promoting of the idea that now that you feel better, you are better and with this delusion comes the implicit message that all you have to do is return to the external, outer world to continue living your life.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Transformation is about awareness!

Transformation is initially about awareness. Transformation is about becoming aware of the reality of our existence and power, aware that we are completely responsible for our experiences and life, that what we do, say and think matters and that we have the power and tools to create a life where we are authentically happy. Transformation is ultimately about waking up and becoming present to who we really are in life.

We believe that we are responsible for our existence or we do not. We believe that we are responsible for all of our experiences or we do not. We believe that how life is appearing to us is our responsibility and our creation or we do not. I believe that we are completely responsible for our life. I believe that we are not victims, never have been and never will be. Attempting to be a victim is our attempt to deny our responsibility for our life.

We believe that our thoughts, words and actions are important and powerful or we do not. We believe that our thoughts, words and actions are the tools that we use to create our experiences and life or we do not. We believe that our thoughts, words and actions are the primary tools that we use to respect, approve, accept and love ourselves or we do not. I believe that what we think, what we say and do is how we go about loving and honoring ourselves.

Unfortunately, the tendency of many addicts and alcoholics is to reject their responsibility in life and to believe that they are the effect of life. The tendency of many addicts and alcoholics is to believe that they are victims of life. The tendency of many addicts and alcoholics is to believe that they are powerless not only in reference to substances but to life in general. The tendency of many addicts and alcoholics is to believe that what they think, say and do is not connected to their experiences in life or to their self esteem.

Being open mind and willing to consider a new way of thinking is so very important. Being completely responsible for our life is the first lesson to learn as we awaken to our power. Accepting and acknowledging our responsibility for all that that we experience in life is the first step that we have to take on our road to transformation. Knowing that what we think, say and do matters greatly and that they are the tools of our transformation is the second step.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Try approving of yourself!

Many individuals, including addicts and alcoholics, do not understand the importance and power of what they think and say, especially when they are referring to themselves. Many people truly do not believe that their thoughts and words are important or matter. They do not see that there is any connection between their thinking and their outer experiences.

"Until someone can show you the connection between the outer experiences and the inner thoughts, you remain a victim in life." Louise Hay

When you begin the path of transformation you will slowly come to understand the importance and power of your thinking and thought patterns. You will eventually come to understand that the emotional pain that you have been experiencing all these years was created by you, by your thoughts and way of being. You will also come to know that you can be, have and do differently.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

The first step is not knowing!

When you are truly willing to learn, you are ready to change and transform your life. Many addicts and alcoholics say that they know, that they know what to do to stay clean and sober, to be and stay in recovery. Many say that they know but do not take action and as a result there is no wisdom. Knowing how to clean the windshield is not enough, you have to actually do the work to clean it.

While it is vital to stay open and willing to learn, you have to first accept and acknowledge the fact that you do not know. This is the first step, not knowing. If you say you know you cut off any possibility of learning and of transforming your life. Admitting that you do know allows you to create the space to be open to authentically learning and as a result creating absolute miracles in your life.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

When you assume responsibility you have the power to transform!

Many individuals, especially addicts and alcoholics, do not believe that they have the power to change and transform their life. They believe that they are a poor victim to life, blame other people, places and things for their current situation, continue to feel sorry for themselves and emit the same behavior that only causes their life to slowly, sometimes quickly, implode on itself.

Doing recovery and authentically transforming your life is about initially assuming full and complete responsibility for your life. You are the author of the story that you are living inside. It is only when you acknowledge and accept that you are responsible for all of your experiences and life as it is appear for you, will you start to consciously claim your power to change the trajectory of your current existence.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

The First Step in Recovery and Transformation

The belief that the real cause of drug and alcohol addiction is something other than our thinking and thought process, especially the thoughts that we have about ourselves, about our value and worth as a human being, is very pervasive in our society. The current tendency is to believe that addiction is about the human brain, about its abnormal nature. It is believed further that addicts and alcoholics have a disease.

We offer another possibility. I believe that the real cause of drug and alcohol addiction is to be found in human consciousness, in our thought process. I believe that addicts and alcoholics have a negative self image, believing that they are not good enough, especially when compared to others. This negative self image always causes one to experience a lack of self love, to have poor self esteem.

The first reaction of many individuals suffering from substance abuse issues is to reject the idea that drug and alcohol addiction is about having poor self esteem. The essential reason for this denial is that most addicts and alcoholics have difficulty facing the man or woman in the mirror and assuming responsibility for their way of being. The tendency is to blame other people, places and things for their current condition.

I have found that the ability of an individual to transform his life is determined by the acceptance of one initial belief, of believing that he is completely responsible for all of his experiences and life. When a person acknowledges and accepts that he is the cause of his current situation in life, then and only then, will he be able to work on transforming the true cause of his addiction to drugs and alcohol, his negative self image and the resulting poor self esteem.

Dr. Harry Henshaw