Dr. Harry Henshaw

I am responsible for all of my experiences!

One of the most difficult ideas for addicts and alcoholics to understand, let alone fully accept, is that they are responsible for all of their experiences, responsible for everything that they think, say, feel and do in life. The tendency of an addict or alcoholic is to deny their responsibility for their life condition and to blame another person, place or thing for what they are experiencing. When I blame I have no power to change or transform my life.

To do recovery and to transform your life you have to assume complete responsibility for your life, total responsibility for all of your experiences. This especially includes your addiction to drugs and alcohol. You are completely responsible for creating your addiction to drugs and alcohol, for you starting to use and for you continuing to use. Most addicts and alcoholic refuse to accept their responsibility for their self destructive condition.

When I blame another person, place or thing I make up a story about me being a victim. I create that someone or some situation in life made me the way that I am today. I may look for sympathy in others and for others to even acknowledge that have been treated poorly or unfairly. I want others to tell me that I am a victim in life, that I am not responsible for what I am experiencing and that definitely there is someone or something to blame for what is happening to me.

However, when I blame and do not accept my responsibility for my life I stay stuck. I am unable to change or transform my life. I will not consider, let alone utilize, the power that I have inside me to alter the trajectory of my life. I will refuse to consider that not only are my actions and behaviors creating my life but more importantly so are my thoughts and the beliefs that I hold about life, others and especially about myself. My situation and condition is the result of my not knowing that I am a powerful being, that I do have the Power to transform.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Acceptance of Responsibility

To change or transform our life we have to first admit, surrender to the fact, that we are completely responsible for all of our experiences, the good and so-called bad. It is then and only then will we be able to let go of the effects of the past and start the process of reinventing ourselves. With acceptance of our complete responsibility also comes our freedom as well.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

The Addict and Alcoholic are Responsible for their Addiction!

The problem with blame is always the same. When we blame any person, place or thing for our experiences we do not take responsibility. As we are responsible for all of our experiences there is truly no one to blame. Without assuming complete responsibility for what we have created we will also not change or transform and our life will continue as it always has been.

The cause of the current drug epidemic and the resulting deaths is not the medical professionals, doctors and pharmaceutical corporations as many want to believe. The true and only cause of the epidemic is the addict and alcoholic, their negative self image and resulting poor self esteem. The addict and alcoholic is truly responsible for their substance abuse and addiction.

We can blame the doctors and pharmaceutical companies all we want and try to think that we fixing the epidemic but we are not. The only way to help the suffering addict and alcoholic is to first help them to take full responsibility. Once this happens, we can then assist them in learning how to authentically think differently about themselves and ultimately learn how to love themselves.

When we truly love ourselves we will choose to respect and honor ourselves. When we truly love ourselves we will not harm or hurt ourselves with drugs and alcohol. When we come to understand that the real problem is the thought process of the addict and alcoholic, the thoughts and beliefs that they have about their negative value and worth as human beings, then and only then will we be able to resolve the current drug epidemic.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

A Holistic Approach to Transformation and Recovery


We believe that you have the power to transform, to heal your life, regardless of whether you are struggling with a substance abuse or a mental health issue. You need to know this, that you do have the power to change the trajectory of your life. The choice to transform is yours.

You are definitely not helpless, you never have been. You are always responsible for your life. You have the power to transform your life by learning how to powerfully use your mind and thinking, your thoughts and beliefs. These are the tools that you need to change your life.

We encourage you to consciously claim your power, the power of your thinking to heal your life. As thoughts can be changed or transformed, so can your life. You can transform your life by changing your thinking, especially about yourself. Your point of power to transform is now!

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Self care and choosing positive thoughts.

The work transformation and recovery is about practicing authentic self care and learning to train our minds to think positively, especially about ourselves, in order to feel good. We need to practice choosing thoughts that make us feel good about ourselves, others and life in general and let go of the ones that are negative, that create pain for us. Louise Hay referred to these thoughts as positive feeling thoughts. While we have been choosing negative ones in the past, we can also choose positive thoughts to think and say.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Accept where you are and that you are ready for change!

We tend to have very foolish ideas about who we are in life. This is not meant as criticism because each of us is doing the best that we can at this very moment. If we knew better, if we were to come to have more understanding and awareness about who we really are, then we would do and be different.

It is important to accept where you are in life and to not put yourself down for being where you are. Also, acknowledge yourself for being ready to make a positive change in your life. Accepting where you are and that you are ready to move forward is part of the initial stage of your transformation.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Fix thinking, problems fix themselves

One of the powerful concepts that the work of Louise Hay offers addicts and alcoholic or those suffering from mental health issues is that the problems that they experience can be changed or transformed by fixing their thinking. It is our thoughts that creates our feelings that dictates what we will do or our behavior. Our problems are caused by our thinking. Transform our thinking and we can resolve our problems.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Importance of your relationship with yourself

You hear a great deal about the importance of having God in your life in the program, especially in AA. I believe that there is a another conversation that needs to take place before we can talk with another in a meaningful way about our relationship with God. The initial conversation that needs to take place is about our relationship with ourselves.

I believe that we have to come to authentically love ourselves before we can have any meaningful relationship with God. Most addicts and alcoholic do not truly love themselves but only pretend to do so. What blocks us from being spiritually connected to God, Source, Spirit or Higher Power is our inability to love ourselves, to have self love.

Learning to love ourselves as we are, to respect, approve and accept ourselves, gives us access to a true connection or relationship with God, Spirit, Source or Higher Power. Many people speak of how important God has been in their life but live the life of a fraud and live it inauthentically. If we are to get connected to the Power that God, Source, Spirit or Higher Power truly is we have to learn how to love ourselves.

Dr. Harry Henshaw