alcohol addiction

I am responsible for all of my experiences!

One of the most difficult ideas for addicts and alcoholics to understand, let alone fully accept, is that they are responsible for all of their experiences, responsible for everything that they think, say, feel and do in life. The tendency of an addict or alcoholic is to deny their responsibility for their life condition and to blame another person, place or thing for what they are experiencing. When I blame I have no power to change or transform my life.

To do recovery and to transform your life you have to assume complete responsibility for your life, total responsibility for all of your experiences. This especially includes your addiction to drugs and alcohol. You are completely responsible for creating your addiction to drugs and alcohol, for you starting to use and for you continuing to use. Most addicts and alcoholic refuse to accept their responsibility for their self destructive condition.

When I blame another person, place or thing I make up a story about me being a victim. I create that someone or some situation in life made me the way that I am today. I may look for sympathy in others and for others to even acknowledge that have been treated poorly or unfairly. I want others to tell me that I am a victim in life, that I am not responsible for what I am experiencing and that definitely there is someone or something to blame for what is happening to me.

However, when I blame and do not accept my responsibility for my life I stay stuck. I am unable to change or transform my life. I will not consider, let alone utilize, the power that I have inside me to alter the trajectory of my life. I will refuse to consider that not only are my actions and behaviors creating my life but more importantly so are my thoughts and the beliefs that I hold about life, others and especially about myself. My situation and condition is the result of my not knowing that I am a powerful being, that I do have the Power to transform.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Stop being a victim!

Yesterday afternoon I watched the PBS Newshour, as I do most afternoons. One of the segments was about the recent lawsuit in Oklahoma and some of the details of the settlement. One individual that was interviewed was the Attorney General of one of the States. While I believe he is advocating for more money to be taken from the pharmaceutical company, he made some statements about how the drug company is responsible for the drug epidemic, that the company actually caused the epidemic and is responsible for the damage that has taken place in this country.

It is my opinion that such a statement is so very damaging to an addict or alcoholic, both to someone actively using and someone who is attempting to become clean and sober. The reason why I feel so strongly about his statements were harmful to the recovery process and program is that it clearly and totally shifts responsibility to another person, place or thing, in this case the pharmaceutical company and its owners. When responsibility is negated and another is blamed and believed to be the cause of your condition, victimization is instantly created.

When a person believes and feels like they are a victim, there will be no real change or transformation and their life will remain the same which in this type of situation most likely amounts to continuing to use drugs and alcohol. There will be absolutely no inquiry on the individual's part as to his or her responsibility in the matter. The conversation will not be about responsibility but rather about how my situation and life, my using of drugs and alcohol, was caused by another. Not only will the individual not consider changing but will continue to feel sorry for himself and his life and continue to blame, remaining stuck in his addiction.

"We are each responsible for all of our experiences." Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Resistance is the first step to change.

Resistance is always apart of the change or transformative process. We will resist regardless of how dedicated we are to our recovery. We will continue to resist as we move through the process of transformation. It is not that resistance is bad or something to be avoided but how we deal with the psychological movement that is taking place within us is very important. Awareness of our resistance is absolutely necessary for us to actually change or transform. Awareness is especially important when we confront our impatience to change.

Impatience is resistance to change, transformation or recovery. Being impatient is when you want the change and the rewards that go with it but do not want to do or be bothered with the specific work or steps necessary to bring about the recovery or transformation. It is like when you are sitting in a chair and want to go outside but do not want to stand up out of the chair you are sitting in, walk to the door, open the door and walk through the door to the outside. However, without doing the specific work to achieve your stated goal, you will not change, transform or recover.

"Impatience is only another form of resistance. It is resistance to learning and to changing. When we demand that it be done right now, completed at once, then we don't give ourselves time to learn the lesson involved with the problem we have created." Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Acceptance of Responsibility

To change or transform our life we have to first admit, surrender to the fact, that we are completely responsible for all of our experiences, the good and so-called bad. It is then and only then will we be able to let go of the effects of the past and start the process of reinventing ourselves. With acceptance of our complete responsibility also comes our freedom as well.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

The Addict and Alcoholic are Responsible for their Addiction!

The problem with blame is always the same. When we blame any person, place or thing for our experiences we do not take responsibility. As we are responsible for all of our experiences there is truly no one to blame. Without assuming complete responsibility for what we have created we will also not change or transform and our life will continue as it always has been.

The cause of the current drug epidemic and the resulting deaths is not the medical professionals, doctors and pharmaceutical corporations as many want to believe. The true and only cause of the epidemic is the addict and alcoholic, their negative self image and resulting poor self esteem. The addict and alcoholic is truly responsible for their substance abuse and addiction.

We can blame the doctors and pharmaceutical companies all we want and try to think that we fixing the epidemic but we are not. The only way to help the suffering addict and alcoholic is to first help them to take full responsibility. Once this happens, we can then assist them in learning how to authentically think differently about themselves and ultimately learn how to love themselves.

When we truly love ourselves we will choose to respect and honor ourselves. When we truly love ourselves we will not harm or hurt ourselves with drugs and alcohol. When we come to understand that the real problem is the thought process of the addict and alcoholic, the thoughts and beliefs that they have about their negative value and worth as human beings, then and only then will we be able to resolve the current drug epidemic.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

A Holistic Approach to Transformation and Recovery

IMPROVE YOUR SELF ESTEEM, CHANGE YOUR LIFE. LOVE YOURSELF AND YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE!

We believe that you have the power to transform, to heal your life, regardless of whether you are struggling with a substance abuse or a mental health issue. You need to know this, that you do have the power to change the trajectory of your life. The choice to transform is yours.

You are definitely not helpless, you never have been. You are always responsible for your life. You have the power to transform your life by learning how to powerfully use your mind and thinking, your thoughts and beliefs. These are the tools that you need to change your life.

We encourage you to consciously claim your power, the power of your thinking to heal your life. As thoughts can be changed or transformed, so can your life. You can transform your life by changing your thinking, especially about yourself. Your point of power to transform is now!

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Self care and choosing positive thoughts.

The work transformation and recovery is about practicing authentic self care and learning to train our minds to think positively, especially about ourselves, in order to feel good. We need to practice choosing thoughts that make us feel good about ourselves, others and life in general and let go of the ones that are negative, that create pain for us. Louise Hay referred to these thoughts as positive feeling thoughts. While we have been choosing negative ones in the past, we can also choose positive thoughts to think and say.

Dr. Harry Henshaw

Accept where you are and that you are ready for change!

We tend to have very foolish ideas about who we are in life. This is not meant as criticism because each of us is doing the best that we can at this very moment. If we knew better, if we were to come to have more understanding and awareness about who we really are, then we would do and be different.

It is important to accept where you are in life and to not put yourself down for being where you are. Also, acknowledge yourself for being ready to make a positive change in your life. Accepting where you are and that you are ready to move forward is part of the initial stage of your transformation.

Dr. Harry Henshaw